Here's the mindset you should have if you really want to be
successful when it comes to dating and meeting women.
Firstly, take all the things that your mom & dad ever taught you
about how to treat and date a woman and do the exact OPPOSITE!
It's not a secret anymore that even though a woman constantly
says that all she wants is a nice, sweet, and caring guy in their
life, often times they're actually lying to themselves -- without
them even realizing it!
It's true!
Seriously.
In the movies, yes, the girl always falls for the nice guy, but
in real life, especially more so if you really want to be able
be with as many women as possible in your lifetime - the nice
guy route will get you nowhere and you'll end up getting nothing
but rejections.
I'm not going to go into the details on the 'why' part of it
because most of you might have already know about it.
Just in case you still don't know why, you can read and listen all about it here in my newly released "Instant Attraction Program"
But what I AM going to talk about today is why do women,
especially attractive ones can act rather 'bitchy' and rude
sometimes and how you can effectively pick up one - with ease.
First of all, you have to understand that attractive women, they
get 'hit on' one way or another at least 10 times a day everyday
- consistently.
Now at first it may all seem happy and nice with them receiving
all the attention from the guys, and sure they can be all cutesy
and polite to them whenever they're being approached but
after a while, it all tends to get rather irritating and
annoying - merely because they're hearing the same ol' lines,
howlings and perv stares over and over again.
Exact words from a woman's mouth - not mine.
So what they do about it?
Well in order for them to 'save time', they would then be
'forced' to be more 'to the point' or as we like to call it
'bitchy' to the guys that approach them.
Why must they be so mean?
Simply because they HAVE to.
You see, if they weren't mean enough, guys who are usually
thick-skinned will not get the point and they'll keep on
pursuing UNTIL she says a firm no.
Makes sense?
How do I know this? Well, to be honest with you, it was merely
by chance. I didn't get any of it at first until I started to
really mix with women.
Sometimes, it's really good to have close girl friends because
you might learn a LOT from them. I now begin to see it all from
THEIR perspective now...
How to approach a woman?
Now, I've noticed that most guys (the majority of them actually),
whenever they approach a woman, they always start off by saying
something like 'Hi there, you're gorgeous, oh by the way, my
name's John, what's yours? I'd like to get to know you, bla bla
bla..."
Heard of such a line before?
Or probably something along these lines?
Now, think about it. If you're a girl and you get asked the
same question about 5-10 times a day, do you think that there's
a high chance that you'll get immune to it?
Of course you would!
And I'm not guessing here because I had a girl friend who once
told me the same thing that I'm telling you now!
It's just too 'typical' for them to receive such lame,
everyday 'pick up' lines.
Best thing is, do you know instead what they would rather hear?
Try this:
Go up to her, and just give her a funny compliment on something
she LEAST expects to get a compliment on (NEVER compliment her
looks, she's immune to that, remember?), you can compliment on
her funky hairstyle, her heels, her big ears -- anything.
Just as long as its something she LEAST expects to hear from
a guy.
Using humour is always good in picking up women. Humor added
with a bit of spunk, along with a spot-on sarcastic tone and
body language will definitely seal the deal for you -- and
get her interested.
Surely.
Think about it.
This works. :-)
[About the Author]: Simon Heong is the publisher of the
Dating & Seduction Online Best Seller, the "Instant
Attraction Program" -- the community's MOST COMPREHENSIVE
program revealing the most intimate secrets on female
attraction techniques and dating strategies.
Tuesday, January 22, 2008
Monday, January 21, 2008
The 2 Magical Traits That ALL Women Are Attracted To...
Everyone knows this...
Women are one of the most ILLOGICAL human beings in the
world.
That's true.
Ever noticed why certain women tend to remain in physically
abusive relationships, year after year even when they
knowingly KNOW that the relationship will never become better?
You have to get into their minds and understand exactly what
makes them... women.
First of all, unlike us - as men, we normally get turned on
VISUALLY.
We are VISUAL beings.
As 'hunters', we are normally attracted to things that are
visually attractive and appealing.
We see an attractive woman, one that has a solid, curvy,
slender looking body - and we IMMEDIATELY get turned on.
And if she's really sexy looking, chances are we'll get
arou.sed in 2 seconds.
We'll find ourselves immediately 'wanting' her.
And we automatically think it is... love.
Some might suddenly see a hot looking woman in front of them
and INSTANTLY think that it's love.
Fact is, it is NOT love at first sight.
We were merely attracted to a her PHYSICALLY and nothing
else.
What if deep down that perfect body, lies a gold-digging,
selfish, dumb & boring personality?
Would we really care?
No.
Because we get turned on by VISUAL things.
Guys go out expecting to get 'laid'.
Women on the other hand are human beings of EMOTION.
It's not so much about 'looks' with them.
They are more inclined to get attracted to guys with
PERSONALITY. How you talk to them...
How you make them FEEL.
Ever notice that how women tend to take a LONGER time to
fall in love with men?
You don't see many women around who happened to see a
hot-looking guy and immediately thinks she's 'in love'
with him, don't you?
She will usually need time to 'get to know him better'...
... 'get to know his friends better'...
... 'get to know his family members better'...
I'm sure you heard THAT before, right?
For them, as long as they can 'feel a connection' with the
guy, THEN there might be a POSSIBILITY of her falling in
love with him.
Notice how women often uses the word "feel" when their
talking about love, relationships & guys.
And sure enough, it takes women a longer time to fall
in love, but once they are really 'into' the guy, they
will give him their ALL.
They will do WHATEVER it takes to make him happy, cook his
favorite dishes, wash his clothes, clean his apartment,
etc.. they will basically go to GREAT lengths to
'satis.fy' their man the moment their in love with him...
Ever noticed that?
To put in simply, if you want to be GREAT with women, you
must know HOW to 'trigger' her innermost feelings of
emotions whenever you're with them.
Women don't get turned on by guys JUST by looking at them.
Yes, there are a few who might be like that, but in
general, they will more likely be together with a guy that
knows how make them FEEL great.
You must be able to 'connect' with them on their 'EMOTIONAL'
level.
And If you can consistently get a woman's attention and
make her FEEL pleasurable sensations whenever she's with
you - you have struck GOLD!
"And how do you do this then?", you may ask...
One of the most powerful ways is by using HUMOR in a
PLAYFUL, CHARMING & TEASING way...
If you can make women laugh & have fun EVERYTIME and amp
those feelings of PLAYFULNESS whenever you're with her,
believe me they WILL quickly develop PLEASURABLE feelings
for you.
Women LOVE funny, playful guys!
Who doesn't?
For example, if a woman I've just met in a bar accidently
brushes against me, I'll immediately go
"Hey, what's wrong with you?
"We just met & ALREADY you can't keep your hands to
yourself?"
"What next, you'll spike my drink and seduce me to sleep
with you tonight?"
I'll then slide my glass to another corner of the table.
"I'll be watching you..."
I'll then wait for her face to light up ;-)
Get what I'm trying to say here?
Be playful.
Show her a good time and tease her WHENEVER you can.
TRY it and you'll see it work WONDERS to your Game ;-)
[About the Author]: Simon Heong is the publisher of the
Dating & Seduction Online Best Seller, the "Instant
Attraction Program" -- the community's MOST COMPREHENSIVE
program revealing the most intimate secrets on female
attraction techniques and dating strategies.
Women are one of the most ILLOGICAL human beings in the
world.
That's true.
Ever noticed why certain women tend to remain in physically
abusive relationships, year after year even when they
knowingly KNOW that the relationship will never become better?
You have to get into their minds and understand exactly what
makes them... women.
First of all, unlike us - as men, we normally get turned on
VISUALLY.
We are VISUAL beings.
As 'hunters', we are normally attracted to things that are
visually attractive and appealing.
We see an attractive woman, one that has a solid, curvy,
slender looking body - and we IMMEDIATELY get turned on.
And if she's really sexy looking, chances are we'll get
arou.sed in 2 seconds.
We'll find ourselves immediately 'wanting' her.
And we automatically think it is... love.
Some might suddenly see a hot looking woman in front of them
and INSTANTLY think that it's love.
Fact is, it is NOT love at first sight.
We were merely attracted to a her PHYSICALLY and nothing
else.
What if deep down that perfect body, lies a gold-digging,
selfish, dumb & boring personality?
Would we really care?
No.
Because we get turned on by VISUAL things.
Guys go out expecting to get 'laid'.
Women on the other hand are human beings of EMOTION.
It's not so much about 'looks' with them.
They are more inclined to get attracted to guys with
PERSONALITY. How you talk to them...
How you make them FEEL.
Ever notice that how women tend to take a LONGER time to
fall in love with men?
You don't see many women around who happened to see a
hot-looking guy and immediately thinks she's 'in love'
with him, don't you?
She will usually need time to 'get to know him better'...
... 'get to know his friends better'...
... 'get to know his family members better'...
I'm sure you heard THAT before, right?
For them, as long as they can 'feel a connection' with the
guy, THEN there might be a POSSIBILITY of her falling in
love with him.
Notice how women often uses the word "feel" when their
talking about love, relationships & guys.
And sure enough, it takes women a longer time to fall
in love, but once they are really 'into' the guy, they
will give him their ALL.
They will do WHATEVER it takes to make him happy, cook his
favorite dishes, wash his clothes, clean his apartment,
etc.. they will basically go to GREAT lengths to
'satis.fy' their man the moment their in love with him...
Ever noticed that?
To put in simply, if you want to be GREAT with women, you
must know HOW to 'trigger' her innermost feelings of
emotions whenever you're with them.
Women don't get turned on by guys JUST by looking at them.
Yes, there are a few who might be like that, but in
general, they will more likely be together with a guy that
knows how make them FEEL great.
You must be able to 'connect' with them on their 'EMOTIONAL'
level.
And If you can consistently get a woman's attention and
make her FEEL pleasurable sensations whenever she's with
you - you have struck GOLD!
"And how do you do this then?", you may ask...
One of the most powerful ways is by using HUMOR in a
PLAYFUL, CHARMING & TEASING way...
If you can make women laugh & have fun EVERYTIME and amp
those feelings of PLAYFULNESS whenever you're with her,
believe me they WILL quickly develop PLEASURABLE feelings
for you.
Women LOVE funny, playful guys!
Who doesn't?
For example, if a woman I've just met in a bar accidently
brushes against me, I'll immediately go
"Hey, what's wrong with you?
"We just met & ALREADY you can't keep your hands to
yourself?"
"What next, you'll spike my drink and seduce me to sleep
with you tonight?"
I'll then slide my glass to another corner of the table.
"I'll be watching you..."
I'll then wait for her face to light up ;-)
Get what I'm trying to say here?
Be playful.
Show her a good time and tease her WHENEVER you can.
TRY it and you'll see it work WONDERS to your Game ;-)
[About the Author]: Simon Heong is the publisher of the
Dating & Seduction Online Best Seller, the "Instant
Attraction Program" -- the community's MOST COMPREHENSIVE
program revealing the most intimate secrets on female
attraction techniques and dating strategies.
Thursday, January 17, 2008
How To Create Instant Attraction & Have Women Chase YOU!
As guys, we were normally taught by our parents that the best
way to get a girl is for us to be 'nice, gentle, caring and
loving' guys.
"Just show her you care, be there for her whenever she needs
you, be a romantic, send her flowers, and constantly pursue
her."
"Do this persistently and one fine day, she'll [naturally]
develop feelings for you and will fall for you".
Frankly speaking, back during the 50s, 60s and 70s, such
'wussy-like' techniques could work.
I mean, that was exactly how our dads normally courted our
moms anyway, right?
If it worked for them then, in theory, it would definitely
work for us now, right?
I used to think that this should be the way.
But I was dead wrong.
In fact, when I first started developing interest for girls,
I tried this tactic myself, and went through many a heart
break along the way.
It's now the new millenium and we have to move along with
times. Things change, technology change, people change,
WOMEN change; naturally the DATING SCENE has changed as
well.
For me, one of the best ways for you to get the women you
desire is for you to first -- Change your mindset.
Stop going after the girl.
Traditionally, it was the guy who has to go after the
girl. But the "dating" scene has EVOLVED so much since
the time of our forefathers, it doesn't have to be this
way anymore!
In fact, if you want to be successful with women -- your
mindset MUST be changed where your goal right now is to
'se.xually attract' HER to come after YOU...
... and no it is NOT impossible!
Let me give you an example...
You see, apart from teaching guys to be more successful
with women, I am also an entrepreneur and I sell
software products to my clients from all over the world.
For me, I tend to find it much EASIER to sell products
to people who are ALREADY interested in my products or
services rather than trying to cold call a prospective
client and try to 'sell' it to them.
Imagine if you're a sales person who's job is to sell
credit cards.
Don't you think it's much easier for you to close the sale when you have call-in or walk-in prospective clients who
walks into the bank and tells you "I'm interested to apply
for a credit card. What do you need?"
Same applies here when you're dating women.
You'll get far better results if you can "draw" her in
& get HER interested to come after you instead.
Don't you think it'll be WAY easier to "close" her
when she's ALREADY interested in you?
And exactly how do you do that?
Again in business.
What differentiates a successful multi-million dollar
business from a struggling or an average "so-so" one?
The answer is 'differentiation'.
Successful business owners knows that in order for a
customer to choose their products over their MANY other
competitors, they will have to come out with a product,
a business system or marketing concepts that are truly
'indifferent'.
The have to be unique and really STAND OUT from the rest.
Same goes in the seduction game.
If you want to become really successful in it, you've
got to differentiate yourself by becoming truly unique,
but in a very EXCITING and ATTRACTIVE way.
You see, if you've set your sight on a physically
attractive woman, fact is that many other guys will ALSO
find her attractive and would go straight on and hit on
them.
On average, top-dog, hot looking women normally gets hit
on at least, a minimum of 5-8 times -- every single day.
Now honestly ask yourself; what will your chances of
'scoring' with her be like if you were to act and do the
EXACT SAME things like the the REST OF THE OTHER GUYS who
are hitting on her that particular day?
Answer - most likely, zero.
If you really want to stand above the rest of them,
you have to be truly unique and INDIFFERENT in your
approach.
Most guys try to "convince" a woman to feel attracted
to them by giving them compliments, gifts, buying
them expensive dinners, etc with the HOPE that they
will fall for them.
This NEVER works.
Attraction happens instantly or NOT at all.
Plain and simple.
Get that DRILLED into your head.
Don't be anything like the other clueless men, and
start complementing her, be all submissive to her
every demand, using cheesy pick-up lines, because women,
esp beautiful ones, they are IMMUNE to such wussy like
guys, its just too 'easy'/boring for them.
Instead, you should DEVELOP traits that women will
normally find attractive in a man:
- Confidence (not acting insecure & needy)
- Being unapologetic when you're talking to her in a
charming & funny way
- Not accepting bit.chy behaviour from her or anyone
else
- Have strong control of YOUR composure and SHOWING to
her that you're not at all INTIMIDATED by her looks &
let her know that SHE has to be the one to IMPRESS you
- Flirtatious/charming character & body language
Having all these traits immediately throws women off their
tracks because these are all things that they LEAST
expect in their interactions with men.
I hope you're getting what I am trying to say here.
Oh and here's a little something on "pick-up lines"
Guys are always searching for the latest and best
pick up lines.
My advice is - FORGET pick up lines.
At this day and age, women automatically turn
themselves "off" to pick up lines, esp cheesy ones.
They get 'hit' by them over a thousand times in their
lifetime - Don't get me wrong, really, REALLY good
pick lines can work at times, but it can only get
you as far as the first 30 seconds and that's it.
What happens AFTER you've run out of 'cool' lines then?
How are you going to "keep her interested" & keep the
Game going then?
Bottom line, pick up lines are the OLD FASHIONED way
of approaching women.
[About the Author]: Simon Heong is the publisher of the
Dating & Seduction Online Best Seller, the "Instant
Attraction Program" -- the community's MOST COMPREHENSIVE
program revealing the most intimate secrets on female
attraction techniques and dating strategies.
way to get a girl is for us to be 'nice, gentle, caring and
loving' guys.
"Just show her you care, be there for her whenever she needs
you, be a romantic, send her flowers, and constantly pursue
her."
"Do this persistently and one fine day, she'll [naturally]
develop feelings for you and will fall for you".
Frankly speaking, back during the 50s, 60s and 70s, such
'wussy-like' techniques could work.
I mean, that was exactly how our dads normally courted our
moms anyway, right?
If it worked for them then, in theory, it would definitely
work for us now, right?
I used to think that this should be the way.
But I was dead wrong.
In fact, when I first started developing interest for girls,
I tried this tactic myself, and went through many a heart
break along the way.
It's now the new millenium and we have to move along with
times. Things change, technology change, people change,
WOMEN change; naturally the DATING SCENE has changed as
well.
For me, one of the best ways for you to get the women you
desire is for you to first -- Change your mindset.
Stop going after the girl.
Traditionally, it was the guy who has to go after the
girl. But the "dating" scene has EVOLVED so much since
the time of our forefathers, it doesn't have to be this
way anymore!
In fact, if you want to be successful with women -- your
mindset MUST be changed where your goal right now is to
'se.xually attract' HER to come after YOU...
... and no it is NOT impossible!
Let me give you an example...
You see, apart from teaching guys to be more successful
with women, I am also an entrepreneur and I sell
software products to my clients from all over the world.
For me, I tend to find it much EASIER to sell products
to people who are ALREADY interested in my products or
services rather than trying to cold call a prospective
client and try to 'sell' it to them.
Imagine if you're a sales person who's job is to sell
credit cards.
Don't you think it's much easier for you to close the sale when you have call-in or walk-in prospective clients who
walks into the bank and tells you "I'm interested to apply
for a credit card. What do you need?"
Same applies here when you're dating women.
You'll get far better results if you can "draw" her in
& get HER interested to come after you instead.
Don't you think it'll be WAY easier to "close" her
when she's ALREADY interested in you?
And exactly how do you do that?
Again in business.
What differentiates a successful multi-million dollar
business from a struggling or an average "so-so" one?
The answer is 'differentiation'.
Successful business owners knows that in order for a
customer to choose their products over their MANY other
competitors, they will have to come out with a product,
a business system or marketing concepts that are truly
'indifferent'.
The have to be unique and really STAND OUT from the rest.
Same goes in the seduction game.
If you want to become really successful in it, you've
got to differentiate yourself by becoming truly unique,
but in a very EXCITING and ATTRACTIVE way.
You see, if you've set your sight on a physically
attractive woman, fact is that many other guys will ALSO
find her attractive and would go straight on and hit on
them.
On average, top-dog, hot looking women normally gets hit
on at least, a minimum of 5-8 times -- every single day.
Now honestly ask yourself; what will your chances of
'scoring' with her be like if you were to act and do the
EXACT SAME things like the the REST OF THE OTHER GUYS who
are hitting on her that particular day?
Answer - most likely, zero.
If you really want to stand above the rest of them,
you have to be truly unique and INDIFFERENT in your
approach.
Most guys try to "convince" a woman to feel attracted
to them by giving them compliments, gifts, buying
them expensive dinners, etc with the HOPE that they
will fall for them.
This NEVER works.
Attraction happens instantly or NOT at all.
Plain and simple.
Get that DRILLED into your head.
Don't be anything like the other clueless men, and
start complementing her, be all submissive to her
every demand, using cheesy pick-up lines, because women,
esp beautiful ones, they are IMMUNE to such wussy like
guys, its just too 'easy'/boring for them.
Instead, you should DEVELOP traits that women will
normally find attractive in a man:
- Confidence (not acting insecure & needy)
- Being unapologetic when you're talking to her in a
charming & funny way
- Not accepting bit.chy behaviour from her or anyone
else
- Have strong control of YOUR composure and SHOWING to
her that you're not at all INTIMIDATED by her looks &
let her know that SHE has to be the one to IMPRESS you
- Flirtatious/charming character & body language
Having all these traits immediately throws women off their
tracks because these are all things that they LEAST
expect in their interactions with men.
I hope you're getting what I am trying to say here.
Oh and here's a little something on "pick-up lines"
Guys are always searching for the latest and best
pick up lines.
My advice is - FORGET pick up lines.
At this day and age, women automatically turn
themselves "off" to pick up lines, esp cheesy ones.
They get 'hit' by them over a thousand times in their
lifetime - Don't get me wrong, really, REALLY good
pick lines can work at times, but it can only get
you as far as the first 30 seconds and that's it.
What happens AFTER you've run out of 'cool' lines then?
How are you going to "keep her interested" & keep the
Game going then?
Bottom line, pick up lines are the OLD FASHIONED way
of approaching women.
[About the Author]: Simon Heong is the publisher of the
Dating & Seduction Online Best Seller, the "Instant
Attraction Program" -- the community's MOST COMPREHENSIVE
program revealing the most intimate secrets on female
attraction techniques and dating strategies.
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